This is one of the biggest stories right now.
Youtubers Myka Stauffer and her husband released a youtube video announcing that they had to give up their adopted child because of specials needs. Watch the video first and then we can dissect it.
WHAT ARE THEY DOING.
Originally, they blogged and instagrammed the entire adoption process and all of their feelings and struggles, gaining thousands of likes and subscribers. Now they are claiming they couldn't take care of their son because of his specials needs.
I HAVE SEVERAL QUESTIONS BEFORE MY OPINION
I didn't even know you could return a child? As if he was a faulty product and not a child of theirs. Can you imagine how difficult this must on that poor child's self-esteem?
I think the main question is if they would return a child that they gave birth to? I honestly don't think they would have. I can sympathize with families who have difficulties with special needs children but to tell him that you don't think he fits with your family is so difficult on that poor kids self-esteem.
They are getting a lot of hate on instagram for their decision, and while I disprove of their choice I would NEVER comment anything hateful. I just think they should have treated him as if he was their birth child and not as if he was an adopted child. My goal in life is to adopt a child one day and I would NEVER treat them as a option. But even with my strong feelings about this, I wouldn't hate on this on family. Read some of these comments...
I didn't even know you could return a child? As if he was a faulty product and not a child of theirs.
Can you imagine how difficult this must on that poor child's self-esteem?
Can a kid have permanent damage from being "given up" as a child?
Did he find a good new home?
I think the main question is if they would return a child that they gave birth to?
They did say in the video that he was given up to another family and the mother has medical training that could help him, which IN THEORY sounds nice. But there is plenty of research that shows a child can have long term problems come from being abandoned. Regardless of how nice his new family, he was given up. He won't forget that. He will suffer for that.
When you adopt a child you need to accept them as if they were your own child. Would they have given up one of their other children that they gave birth to? Probably not.
This is why she is getting thousands of mean message on her instagram, check this
As angry as seeing this video makes me, I still would never comment something hurtful on her page. NEVER. Here are some of them...
You’re video truly broke my heart. I’m confused.. I know for a fact you wouldn’t be giving up your biological children if they had the same circumstances happening.. poor baby
I don’t like when people do malicious things and then try to hide behind “but the lord”. Yes he forgives but remember he also knows and sees all.
people normalizing this and accepting this make me sick. -an adoptee
Whatever helps you sleep at night
God sees everything, you aren’t meant to be a mom. You abandoned your “son” you should be ashamed
My opinion is that no mother should give up a child ESPECIALLY an adopted child who has already been through that trauma. But also I can feel a slight comfort in knowing he was given to a family who will love him.
*picture form Youtube